About me

There are few expeditions in life quite as bewildering as navigating the human heart, particularly one that’s just been put through the emotional equivalent of a spin cycle with a bag of rocks. I should know. For years, my own internal GPS for relationships seemed to be spectacularly broken. It had two conflicting settings: “Come here immediately, you are the most wonderful person I have ever met,” and “For the love of all that is holy, please go away before I have to fake my own death and move to another continent.” It was, to put it mildly, exhausting.

It turns out this particular brand of emotional whiplash has a name: Fearful Avoidant attachment. Discovering this was like finding a Rosetta Stone for my own baffling behavior. It was the key to understanding why I felt like I was trying to drive a car with one foot on the accelerator and the other slammed on the brake. And so, in a spirit of inquiry (and sheer self-preservation), I began the long, occasionally clumsy, but ultimately magnificent journey of untangling that wiring.

That’s why this little corner of the internet exists. I’ve trekked through the wilderness of heartbreak, mapped the tricky terrain of a Fearful Avoidant mind, and learned to read the signs on the path to becoming securely attached. Now, I want to be your guide.

If you’re currently navigating the bewildering aftermath of a breakup or trying to understand a relationship that feels like a series of interesting but terrifying guesses, you’ve come to the right place. Think of me as a friendly local who not only speaks the language but also knows where all the hidden potholes are.

For a more personal guided tour, you can book a one-on-one chat, call, or video session with me. If you’re more of a self-study explorer, my specially designed workbook is the map and compass you need for your journey. And along the way, I’ll point you to some of the very best gear and resources I’ve found to make the expedition a whole lot smoother. Let’s get you from feeling lost to feeling safely at home in yourself and your relationships.